Talking therapy, somatic body awareness, and creative practice — for people who have lost the thread of who they are, and sense that thinking harder about it isn't the way back.
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I wrote that poem from my own experience. The job, the relationship, the version of myself I performed so convincingly that even I believed her for a while. The years of giving myself away piece by piece — to what was expected, to what was easier, to what kept other people comfortable — until one day I didn't recognise what was left.
What brought me to this work wasn't a clean narrative of breakdown and recovery. It was something slower and stranger — the growing realisation that the life I had worked so hard to build had been built to someone else's blueprint. That I had been so busy meeting other people's expectations that I had never really asked what I wanted.
I became a counsellor because I believe the work of finding out who you actually are is some of the most quietly radical work a person can do. People who know themselves move through the world differently. They stop giving themselves away. They stop passing the pattern on.
BACP Registered · Integrating talking therapy, somatic work & creative expressionOther people's expectations can get so loud that you start mistaking their echoes for your own voice.
Perhaps you've built the life that was supposed to make you happy — the relationship, the career, the version of yourself that looked fine from the outside — and found that something in you has gone very quiet. Perhaps you're exhausted in a way that sleep doesn't fix. Perhaps you've spent so long holding everything together that you've lost track of what you were holding it together for.
Perhaps you simply don't feel like yourself anymore. And you haven't, if you're honest, for a very long time.
You don't need a diagnosis, a crisis, or the right words. What I most often find underneath — whatever the surface — is someone who has spent years giving themselves away in pieces and has lost the thread of who they are beneath all of it. Someone who is beginning to wonder if there's a way back.
Most of us have been taught to think our way through difficulty — to analyse and understand until something shifts. But when what you've lost is a sense of self, the mind rarely leads you back. The body usually does. Making something — a line, an image, a metaphor — can return you to yourself in ways that more thinking rarely manages.
My practice draws on three strands, in whatever combination suits where you are.
The foundation. A space to be heard without having to manage the other person's reaction. To say the unsayable, and start making sense of your own story — slowly, on your terms.
The body is usually where the truth lives before language arrives. Somatic work means paying attention to sensation, breath, posture, nervous system response — what's actually happening in you, rather than what you think about what's happening. The body doesn't editorialise. That's why we work with it.
Writing, image, expressive work. You don't need to be a writer or an artist. If you're curious about what might emerge when you make something rather than explain something, that's enough to begin. Creative practice has its own intelligence, and it often gets there faster.
Both somatic and expressive therapeutic approaches are well-supported by research to produce lasting change for people who have lost the thread of who they are — and are trying to find their way back to it.
A pressure valve, released.
A thunderstorm in a desert.
Sessions are 50 minutes. We move at your pace — some sessions are more conversational, some more body-based, some more creative. There's no script and no fixed formula. We follow what's alive in the room.
Before we commit to working together, we'll have an initial consultation — a chance to talk about what's bringing you, ask questions, and get a feel for whether this is the right fit. Free, and with no strings attached.
This kind of work tends to take time — because what we're reaching for is real. How long we work together is entirely your choice. We check in regularly, and you're always the one who knows whether to continue, pause, or stop.
The aim isn't learning to cope better with a life that doesn't fit. It's finding out what a life that actually belongs to you looks like — and working out how to live it.
I keep my practice open. The experience of not feeling like yourself doesn't belong to one kind of story.
I am an active member of the queer community and have completed additional training in supporting clients with Gender, Sexuality, and Relationship Diversity (GSRD).
If you're navigating questions of identity, expression, or belonging in that context, you're welcome here. You won't need to manage my response to who you are.
Send me a message and I'll come back to you within 48 hours with some times for a free 20-minute call. We'll talk about what's brought you here, and you can get a sense of whether this feels right before committing to anything.